“We respect ‘our’ girls.”
“They’re handled like Queens.”
“We maintain them.”
I preserve coming throughout sentences like these from women and men alike claiming that we Pakistanis are the torchbearers in terms of the dignity and respect of a lady.
Any lady. Now, if I had a dime for each time I heard this…
How true is that this assertion in actuality? I’m not speaking about home violence, or the individuals who make excuses for it. Or stats the place girls have truly been bodily attacked by mad males.Or girls honor killed for merely utilizing a cellphone. That’s a unique subject solely. I’m speaking concerning the day-to-day seemingly sane common individuals who repeatedly declare, “We respect our girls like no different!”
Will we? Actually?
A woman referred to as Meenah Tariq just lately took to social media to vent her frustration after being harassed in Khunjrab. She mentioned some younger males stored following her, and taking her photos although she stored making an attempt to get away. When she mentioned ‘No’ time and time once more, they mentioned, “le le aik tasweer, acha really feel karay gi. She will’t do something!” (Take one photograph, you’ll really feel good!)
I don’t learn about you, however a younger lady being adopted by unusual males laughing at her, surrounding her, taking her photos and bullying her is sort of scary.
Now these guys I can simply say have been the unhealthy eggs of our society and don’t characterize everybody. However there have been 600 different individuals round her who did nothing to assist. Why didn’t anybody step up, increase a voice, a hand, stroll nearer to her, take her away, do something? Aren’t we the nation that claims to respect ‘our’ girls and shield them?
I can perceive nobody stepping up from a bunch of 10 individuals and even 20, however there have been 600 individuals there. SIX HUNDRED!
The place have been the torchbearers who flaunt their pleasure on Fb on a regular basis?
It doesn’t even finish there. Meenah, whereas venting needed to additionally guarantee those that she had been totally lined and “had not been asking for it.” As a result of we all know our “respecters”normally prefer to see what a lady is sporting earlier than deciding whether or not she is price it or not. On this case, that didn’t matter a lot in the long run, did it?
Her story moved many individuals; sufficient for them to say “kill them, cling them” the same old lazy response given to actually each given scenario in Pakistan. And naturally the traditional irrelevant recommendation, “it’s best to preserve your self lined.” One thing she had already talked about, however you already know individuals identical to to level out each likelihood they get, the way it might be the girl’s fault simply in case she was considering it was not.
What was actually disturbing nonetheless, have been the variety of individuals calling her an outright liar, an consideration seeker or an individual with a political grudge.
I ask these very individuals, had your mom or sister mentioned to you that they had been harassed this manner, would you might have referred to as them liars and a focus seekers too? Would you might have had the identical doubt?
So is that this respect for ladies prolonged JUST to members of the family then?
Alright, let’s overlook this instance and go on to a different one.
Bear in mind the PIA air-hostess who was ridiculed and mocked by two girls on social media? Once more, they could have merely began it however what number of continued it? What number of women and men made enjoyable of her age and an unflattering pic? The irony is that the identical individuals who don’t put up their photos with out 20 filters have been belittling her.
Nicely right here, PIA had the final snicker once they posted an image of the stunning Air-hostess smiling.
In yer face, haters!
Then we come to the police officer Arsala Saleem who mistakenly saluted Maryam Nawaz as she arrived to seem earlier than the JIT.
Criticism is completely effective. Telling her she did one thing incorrect is okay, however to degrade her, insult her, bully her, demeanher and even going so far as to serving her a authorized discover is totally one other. Ignoring her previous companies or achievements simply to settle scores or to say, “because of this girls mustn’t work exterior” can also be a really clear indicator of how a lot we respect “our” girls. Even her choosing up a pen, one thing we’re taught to do as primary etiquette was dissected like a pinned frog!
After all at this level, some will drag within the phrase feminism proving they’re utterly lacking the purpose. So reserve it, don’t.
From what I can perceive is that, one’s “izzat” begins and ends the place one’s personal mom and sister are involved. They’re separate entities… and the principles are totally different when different unrelated girls are involved.
I say this as a result of these very individuals drag in others’ moms and sisters in idiotic arguments as nicely to settle private vendettas utilizing verbal or bodily abuses. Let’s not overlook, in sure areas, if a person does one thing incorrect, it’s his sister or spouse who has to pay for it.
I do know that not everybody is identical, however I feel it’s time we bought off our excessive horses and accepted the truth in order that we will take a step again, understand and truly attempt to be the individuals we are saying and faux to be. That we truly step up and assist a lady being harassed and never be the rationale for it! It’s time that we create a protected setting for ladies and put that ‘respect’ into motion.
